What to do when you feel stuck
I think all of us can relate to the feeling of being stuck in a certain area of our lives. You feel like you don’t know which way to turn or how to take the next step forward. You know things have to change, but you don’t know how. You feel frustrated, exhausted and paralysed. It’s a horrible feeling. But the frustration we feel can be turned into fuel, propelling…
The impact of knowing your worth
I talk about self-worth a lot, being a self-worth coach, but I know sometimes phrases like this can feel a little fluffy and intangible. It can be hard to get your head around what it actually is, and why you should care. So let’s start with a real quick definition of self-worth: “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect.” The reason I have such…
Why are we scared of taking risks?
Are you a natural risk taker? I am 100% not, but it’s something I’m working on. When I say risk here, I don’t mean jumping out of a plane type risk, I’m talking about social and psychological risks. Doing new things, doing the things that your self-doubt tells you you can’t. I’ve been learning a lot about the brain lately, through a science of wellbeing course I took last year…
How to tell if an investment is right for you
The word investment can have a lot of different meanings. Today I want to look at investments of time and money into your personal development or your business. And I’m coming at this as someone who’s recently done a fair bit of investing into my business specifically. I haven’t done the maths, but I’ve spent a lot of money on my business since deciding to become a coach, from my…
Looking ahead to 2020
Hello everyone and happy New Year! Welcome to the brand new Blue Jay of Happiness site – what do you think? I’m really happy with it. The colours, the navigation – all of it just flows better and is more functional. While blogging is a key part of my work, so is coaching and now podcasting and I feel this new site communicates this well. I want to say a…
BRB – new website coming!
Hello everyone – how are you doing? I wanted to let you know that the blog is going to go quiet over the next couple of weeks because very exciting things are happening behind the scenes and a brand new website is going to be coming your way in January! Blue Jay of Happiness launched on January 1st 2017 and as it approaches its third birthday I’ve decided it’s time…
5 ways I make life easier
After I graduated from university, I worked in a tiny shoe shop. I was promoted to manager pretty quickly and vividly remember one day when I was doing a stock take with my area manager in-store. After looking at my method and my numbers, my area manager said “You do like making things difficult for yourself, don’t you?” and then proceeded to show me a much simpler way of doing…
Five ways to boost SEO on popular blog posts
This isn’t my usual style of blog post here on Blue Jay of Happiness, but every now and then I really like sharing tips about blogging. I know quite a few of you reading run your own blogs and I personally love reading these types of posts, so I thought – why not? I wanted to tell you about something I did a couple of months ago when I had…
Picking yourself up after a fall
Last month I wrote about some mistakes I made when I first started coaching, sharing the lessons I learnt along the way. Today I want to take a broader look at that situation and talk about how we can cope when something doesn’t go the way we thought it would. Maybe you’re a business owner and your latest offering didn’t do as well as you hoped. Maybe you made a…
Why my first session as a coach ended in tears (and what I learnt)
This is one of those posts I’m scared to share, but I think it’s an important one. When we make career decisions that involve trying something new, there is *always* a learning curve. But I feel like this curve is very rarely talked about or shared. Many of us (myself included) want to give the impression that we’re immediately great at this new thing. We share when things go well,…