How often do you tell yourself you’re not good enough?
Whether at work or home, a lot of us have a view of what perfect looks like. The perfect wife. The perfect employee. The perfect friend. We hold ourselves up to these impossible standards, compare ourselves to others and feel like shit when we don’t achieve them.
Since when did perfect become the end goal? I guess social media hasn’t helped here. With Pinterest and Instagram showing us pictures of other people being the ‘perfect’ version of themselves, it’s hard not to compare.
I used to struggle with this a lot when I was younger. I never thought I was good enough, pretty enough, thin enough.
I remember I used to horse ride, and was pretty good at it. I then quit for a while and returned to it when I went to uni. Because I hadn’t ridden in so long, instead of being the ‘best in class’ I was one of the worst. I HATED this and promptly stopped riding for good. Which, now I look back at it, is pretty sad.
Why can’t we be OK with being… just OK at something? Or simply accepting that we have flaws?
I hated this picture of me initially, because my hair was messy… *eyeroll* time to get over it.
It all boils down to the way we treat ourselves. We have to be able to give ourselves a break from time to time and take. Off. The. Pressure.
Letting go of perfect
- Look at your expectations, are they realistic? Give yourself permission to change them.
- Stop the negative self-talk. Right now. Show yourself a little compassion, we’re only human.
- Accept your flaws, they are beautiful. No one can be good at everything.
- Stop procrastinating and start doing. If you wait until things are ‘perfect’ before you do something, it’ll never get done.
- What are you really afraid of? Think about what would happen if you didn’t achieve your goal, or if you fall short of your own expectations – would it really be that bad?
- Accept other people’s flaws too. Learn to love them…. or at least work around them.
When we let go of this idea that we have to be the best at everything, we give ourselves permission to be ourselves in all our flawed glory. And once that happens, you can really have some fun.