Getting my head around NLP
*This post contains a gifted experience* Towards the beginning of this year, when I was in full-on coaching mode, I was looking into NLP courses. NLP stands for neuro linguistic programming and the NLP Academy defines it in the following way: “NLP is the practice of understanding how people organise their thinking, feeling, language and behaviour to produce the results they do. NLP provides people with a methodology to model…
When you really want to quit
It’s happened before and it’ll happen again. Those moments when the thought of quitting your dream takes you and feels utterly overwhelming. If you’re a fellow side-hustler or own your own business, I’m sure you can relate. I had a moment like this recently. I woke up one morning and just thought… is it worth it? I’ve been working so hard since launching my coaching services a year and a…
Seedling Ep 28. Six steps to discover your worth
Somehow we’ve come to the end of season two! It’s gone very quickly but I’ve loved diving a little deeper into certain topics this season. For the finale I wanted to share the six steps I believe are necessary to discover your sense of worth, build self-belief and grow confidence. The six steps came about after doing work on my coaching packages at the start of this year. Hopefully hearing…
What to do when you feel stuck
I think all of us can relate to the feeling of being stuck in a certain area of our lives. You feel like you don’t know which way to turn or how to take the next step forward. You know things have to change, but you don’t know how. You feel frustrated, exhausted and paralysed. It’s a horrible feeling. But the frustration we feel can be turned into fuel, propelling…
The impact of knowing your worth
I talk about self-worth a lot, being a self-worth coach, but I know sometimes phrases like this can feel a little fluffy and intangible. It can be hard to get your head around what it actually is, and why you should care. So let’s start with a real quick definition of self-worth: “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect.” The reason I have such…
Looking ahead to 2020
Hello everyone and happy New Year! Welcome to the brand new Blue Jay of Happiness site - what do you think? I’m really happy with it. The colours, the navigation - all of it just flows better and is more functional. While blogging is a key part of my work, so is coaching and now podcasting and I feel this new site communicates this well. I want to say a…
Seedling Ep 13. Coaching - a year in business
This week I’m taking you behind the scenes of my business over the last year. I talk about why I decided to become a coach in the first place, what happened after I launched, where I am a year in (including how much money I’ve made) and my hopes for 2020. My intention with this episode is to help you realise that slow progress is still progress and not to…
Why my first session as a coach ended in tears (and what I learnt)
This is one of those posts I’m scared to share, but I think it’s an important one. When we make career decisions that involve trying something new, there is *always* a learning curve. But I feel like this curve is very rarely talked about or shared. Many of us (myself included) want to give the impression that we’re immediately great at this new thing. We share when things go well,…
Why is everyone becoming a coach?
If you’re in the online business world, I’m sure you will have noticed that lots of people are becoming coaches. I knew, even when I launched my coaching services last year, that people might roll their eyes and think to themselves “not another coach.” And as it turns out, I was right! When I announced my new services to my newsletter subscribers, some of my long-time subscribers unsubscribed. This is…
How to get out of a negative thought spiral
We’ve all been there right? Something happens that triggers a negative thought, your inner critic takes that thought and runs with it, until you’re spiralling and paralysed by fear. This happened to me pretty recently but I was able to claw my way out relatively quickly. So I thought today I would share the process I went through to do that and how it’s helped me communicate with my inner…